One of the most challenging conversations for parents is when they tell their kids that they plan to divorce.
How you bring up the divorce does not change the reality for your kids, but it can ease the blow and help them adjust to their new lives without as much anxiety.
Think about how your children will remember the moment
This is a significant moment in your children’s lives. Many children will remember it throughout the rest of their lives. Since they will not forget it, you must cultivate a moment that your children may appreciate in adulthood. While the memory may be a source of pain, they will also remember that you tried to make it as comfortable as possible.
Do not ruin the memory of holidays or special occasions with talk of divorce. Instead, bring it up on a neutral day where you and your spouse have time to explain your decision and answer any questions your children have.
Stay strong and mature for your children
Divorce is difficult for both parents, but when telling your kids, you need to be strong. Do not blame your spouse or show any of your negative or conflicting emotions about the divorce to your children. Instead, let your kids see that you are sure of your decision and that you and your spouse are on the same page.
When you show a united front to your kids, it reduces the chance that they may blame themselves or experience guilt about the split.