If you are in the middle of a divorce, you may feel like your life will never be ordinary again. Your divorce will not last forever, though. Eventually, the end of your marriage is likely to become a distant memory. If you intend to co-parent your kids with your ex, of course, you probably cannot cut him or her out of your life entirely.
With a traditional shared-parenting arrangement, you may have to see your ex-spouse once, twice or even three times every week. After all, you have to swap physical custody of your children when your scheduled parenting time commences and concludes.
Your co-parenting agreement
According to Psychology Today, parents who co-parent incorrectly risk jeopardizing the emotional and mental well-being of their children. Luckily, you can keep many of the unknown variables in check by negotiating a comprehensive co-parenting agreement. Among other matters, your co-parenting agreement can address where you choose to swap custody of the kids after your divorce.
Good swapping locations
It probably makes sense to pick a primary custody transfer site and a backup one. When picking these sites, you must prioritize safety. If you fear your ex-spouse may behave aggressively or violently, you may decide to designate a public place or even a police precinct parking lot for your custody transfers.
Otherwise, it is usually advisable to select a transfer location that is convenient for both you and your ex-spouse. Your children’s school, a neighborhood park or a local shopping center may be ideal. Until you have some experience with custody transfers, however, you probably want to avoid swapping the kids at your home or your ex’s residence.
Ultimately, by choosing an optimal place to swap the kids, you do your part to keep post-divorce family conflict under control.