The stress of going through a divorce can take a toll on everyone involved. You and your former spouse, along with your children, are all experiencing a major transition.
Helping your children understand and adapt to the changes may not be easy, but it is an important part of the process.
Communicate appropriately
Tell your children what they need to know without exposing them to inappropriate information. Depending on your children’s ages and your specific circumstances, it may be a good idea to keep many of the details regarding the reason for the divorce private.
Minimize disruptions
If possible, explain the upcoming changes in advance so that they can mentally prepare to change houses or schools. Try to implement effective co-parent methods to increase the sense of security and stability in your children’s lives. Establish a new routine so that children know what to expect on a daily basis.
Validate their feelings
Children may experience a range of emotions during this time. Allow them to express their emotions in a healthy way as they work through their feelings. Encourage your children to talk about their thoughts and offer advice and support. If you notice changes in their behavior, you may want to talk to their doctors and your former spouse about how to resolve any issues.
It can be difficult for children to handle the changes brought on by a divorce. By taking steps to ensure that they feel safe, you can help your children acclimate to the new situation.
