Let's face it: There's nothing simple about asking your spouse for a divorce. Even if your marriage has fallen apart, this conversation can bring forth a variety of challenges and quite a bit of tension.
While there's no right or wrong way to ask your spouse for a divorce, there are some tips you can follow to ease the stress and ensure you have a meaningful conversation.
- Prepare for everything: In addition to knowing what you want to say, think about how your spouse may react. This allows you to prepare for every possible situation, ensuring that you're not caught off-guard.
- Your safety is top priority: Yes, you want to discuss your feelings with your spouse, but you should never take a risk with your safety. For example, if your spouse has the potential to become extremely angry, it's best to ask for a divorce in a public place or over the phone.
- Don't focus on the details of your divorce: This conversation is a good time to discuss your feelings and let your spouse know of your intentions. It's not a good time to discuss the details of your divorce, such as who will stay in the family home and which parent will have physical custody of your children. These details are best left for the actual divorce process.
With these tips guiding you, you'll find yourself better prepared to ask your spouse for a divorce. Once you do this, it's time to learn more about your legal rights, the divorce process and what the immediate future will bring.