Divorce is a terrible reality for many people. The process of separation and finalizing the divorce process is often one of the most difficult experiences for many people. When children are involved, it makes the emotional strains even more difficult to overcome.
Most divorces are settled outside the parameter of the court. However, when divorcing a narcissist, you are likely to have a more difficult divorce process overall. The road towards the single life is wrought with more obstacles when your partner is narcissistic.
Here are some of the key ways that divorce is made difficult with a narcissist:
Drawn out court process – Narcissists love the limelight and do not shy away from spending time in the courtroom. They often believe they are the victim of divorce and they love to exaggerate their problems to the judge and anyone who will listen. The more they can spin their tale and make their claims of victim-hood, the better.
No emotional regard – Narcissist have little to no emotional regard for others, especially when they are the victim in their own story. The lack of emotional consideration for others, makes the divorce process more difficult. The narcissist will continually put themselves and their feelings above you and any child caught in the middle.
Arguments and obstacles every step of the way – The narcissist is committed to the fight brought on by divorce. There is no legal action made that is not fought against tooth and nail. Narcissist are determined to win at all costs. Anything they interpret as an action taken against them is highly offensive. Their tactics inside and outside of court are meant to keep them and their needs front and center-- always.
Getting a divorce with a narcissist is taxing in so many ways. Don’t expect an easy out when filing for divorce and seeking the outcome you desire. Some narcissists in family court have even fought to have the child’s first name match their own. You need to have the strongest legal team available when you are dealing with a narcissist. If not, you risk losing everything and ending up bitter and miserable after everything is said and done.