Child custody is often difficult because parents might have different ideas about what is best for the children. It can be hard to find a common ground that you can both agree upon in these cases. When this happens, you must ensure that you are doing what is best for the children. It is all too easy to get wrapped up in your own feelings that you forget they are the focus.
It is usually best if the parents can come to agreements together. Not only do you know exactly what is going on, you probably know how different options will affect your children. In order for this to work, both adults will have to make the decision that they are willing to compromise. Trying to remain hard-lined on your position will make it impossible to negotiate. Of course, you should stand firm if the issue is one regarding the safety or health of the children.
If you can't come up with an agreement, you may have to turn to the court for a ruling. This isn't ideal because the court doesn't have the firsthand experience with the situation that you and your ex have. Still, some parents find it necessary to have a neutral third party decide on the matter. Remember, this process will likely take longer and be costlier than working with your ex.
You have to make sure that you are keeping your children at the front of the matter. Sometimes, this can make a difference in whether you are able to make the parenting relationship work with your ex.