Robert A. Chapski, Ltd. Divorce and family law attorneys serving Kane County and the surrounding areas
Talk to our attorneys today.
Call 847-742-1642 or send us an email

Keeping kids from feeling stuck in the middle in divorces

During and after a divorce, there can be the potential for children to feel caught in the middle and like they have to choose between one parent and the other. However, it doesn’t have to go this way. Divorcing parents can take steps to be supportive of their kids during this complex time and keep their kids from being put into a difficult position.

Among thing parents can do help prevent their kids from feeling caught in the middle in relation to a divorce are:

  • Stay focused on the childrens needs: This can help parents stay away from inadvertently straying into territory that could expose kids to unnecessary challenges.
  • Dont make children pick sides: This not only includes staying away from directly asking kids to do this, but also avoiding conduct that could inadvertently make a child feel like picking sides is necessary.
  • Dont use the kids as weapons: Parents may have a range of arguments with each other during and after a divorce. It is vital that they don’t try to use the children as leverage or bargaining chips during such disputes.
  • Be careful about what is said around the kids: When one parent bad-mouths the other parent when the children are around, it can be very hard on the kids.
  • Continue to spend some time together with the children: While in some cases this may not be possible, having such together time can play an important role in kids feeling loved and supported by both parents.

Additionally, one thing that can be very important for kids after a divorce is having the right child custody setup for the circumstances. Child custody arrangements come in a very wide range of varieties. How well-aligned the arrangement ultimately reached is with a child’s best interests can have very big impacts on the child. Skilled child custody attorneys can help divorcing parents with their efforts to find the right arrangement for their family’s unique situation.

No Comments

Leave a comment
Comment Information
Email Us For A Response

Contact Us For Legal Advice

Bold labels are required.

Contact Information

The use of the Internet or this form for communication with the firm or any individual member of the firm does not establish an attorney-client relationship. Confidential or time-sensitive information should not be sent through this form.


Privacy Policy

Elgin Office
1815 Grandstand Pl
Elgin, IL 60123

Phone: 847-742-1642
Fax: 847-742-1676
Elgin Law Office Map

St. Charles Office
2210 Dean St
St. Charles, IL 60175

Phone: 847-742-1642
Fax: 847-742-1676
Map & Directions